Words with Wisdom (Proverbs 15)

“The proverb speaks to the most effective way to interact during a disagreement or argument. Though the sage does not shirk from receiving a rebuke when necessary (17:10), it is more typically the case that a soft or tender response will create the conditions that allow for a fruitful conversation. On the other hand, if a person responds with a comment that evokes pain in the other person, then that other person will respond defensively and angrily, so no dialogue can continue. The sage is well aware that there are some who will respond angrily or defensively no matter what, and for cases like this, the recommendation is not to engage those persons at all (26:4). This proverb fits in with the general teaching in Proverbs that cool headedness is superior to hotheadedness.” —Tremper Longman

“There is not a single right answer that is always appropriate. It is a joy to give a helpful answer to a problem, but it must be spoken in a timely manner.” —Tremper Longman